I Should’nt Even Have To Type This One.

I set up this blog to be fairly light hearted. Not that I haven’t shared a bit of my personal life and inner feelings, but for the most part I want this to be a place for people to come and escape a little bit. Let’s have a bit of a chuckle, and make your Monday (or Tuesday or whatever day you read this) better. Even if only a little bit.

But you know what? I don’t have it in me today.

I’m tired y’all. Not so much physically (although some more nap time would be most welcome), but I am mentally and emotionally drained. The world is weighing me down, man. I’m tired of all the fighting, the blaming, the hatred, and the outright lies that are all over not only social media, but most conversations I hear.

I’m tired of everyone being convinced they are right, and not only closing their minds to the possibilities of other viewpoints, but taking every opportunity to tear down those other opinions and, even worse, the people behind them.

It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about masks and vaccines, political affiliations, religion, the latest episode of some show you watch on Netflix, or whatever. There are people on the receiving end of whatever you decide to say/type. Real people with real feelings. You never know what they are going through and how your words may affect them. Suicides happen from bad exchanges on social media. Maybe think about that next time you’re using all caps on Facebook or Twitter.

And okay, sure, maybe they are wrong. Maybe their opinions are stupid, scary, or dangerous. It’s perfectly acceptable to have a conversation with that person, be it face to face or over social media. You probably won’t change their mind, but perhaps you can make them think about the topic being discussed in a slightly different way. That’s how change happens and compromise is reached-a little bit at a time.

What shouldn’t be acceptable, however, (but has sadly become the norm) is insulting them. Verbal abuse. Tearing them down and treating them as an insect instead of as a fellow human being. Newsflash, while you are thinking all of these negatives about them, they are thinking exactly the same about you and your cockamamie ideas.

I know, I know, they started it. Fine. So what? No one want s to be disrespected, so don’t be disrespectful. Never be the first to sling the mud, and stay above it when it happens. If you don’t sink to their level, many will rise to yours.

Look, I realize this is rudimentary stuff, but it’s basic common courtesy and we don’t do it! And yeah, it’s easier said than done. I know I fall short on this kind of stuff all the time. Does that make me a hypocrite? Maybe it does. But I’m working on it.

Now, don’t hear what I’m not saying. You should absolutely speak your mind when the situation is called for. Be an ally for the oppressed. Call out dangerous ideologies. Get involved and do something to save our nation while we still have one left.

Just don’t be a jerk, okay? Let’s all try, just for a while, being kind. Not necessarily nice, “nice” is pleasant and welcoming, but can often be hollow and easily faked. So be kind.

Ranting and raving is a last resort, though sometimes, let’s face it, can be necessary. Let’s just not make that our go-to, okay?

Alright, I guess I’ve made my point. I mean, I feel a little bit like I’m just talking backwards into the wind here, because I know that as soon as I look at Twitter tomorrow the ugliness will be there. I also know that I don’t have a lot of reach here. However, if a few of us will just make a conscious decision to try and be kind-even if it drives us crazy to have bite our tongues-maybe it will help in some small way. And maybe in these crazy times, that’s enough.

I’ll be funny (or what passes for it around here anyway) again next week. As always, thanks for indulging me. See you next time for more MonDAVEs.

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